Comments on: Bullying in Schools: The Cause and The Cure http://edgeretyblog.com Observations and Lessons in Creating an Extraordinary Life! Sun, 06 May 2012 15:05:08 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Ronald Bibace http://edgeretyblog.com/interviews/comment-page-1/#comment-10591 Ronald Bibace Sun, 06 May 2012 15:05:08 +0000 http://edgeretyblog.com/?page_id=265#comment-10591 With all due respect I disagree with your views. Bullying will only be stopped when the bully is 'cured'. The bully can only be 'cured' when his most fundamental anti-social motivation is identified and replaced with an equally satisfying motivation that is socially approved. Moreover it has yet to be recognized that the bully is in large part not in control of his bullhying behavior, and therefore would have a very difficult time changing it, even if he wanted to. The solution is the following: 1. Recognition that the bully bullies to feel good because he doesn't feel good about himself. 2. Understanding that one can 'feel good' by committing any one of the 7 cardinal sins, one of which is the exercise of anger which translates into bullying. 3. Understanding that one can only 'feel good about oneself ' by practicing one or more of the so-called seven heavenly virtues. 4. Learning the way to make the bully understand the difference, make him feel good about himself and thus turn him from bullying to protecting victims. It's not that complicated and it's all in an eBook I just wrote called Bullying Cure available at bullyingcure.com In fact all other alleged 'cures' do no more than attempt to control the overt observable behavior of the bully. That does no more than scotch the bullying snake. I aspire to cure the bully and make nhim a happier well adjusted contributing member of society, adn in passing make sure he doesn't wind up in jail With all due respect I disagree with your views. Bullying will only be stopped when the bully is ‘cured’. The bully can only be ‘cured’ when his most fundamental anti-social motivation is identified and replaced with an equally satisfying motivation that is socially approved.
Moreover it has yet to be recognized that the bully is in large part not in control of his bullhying behavior, and therefore would have a very difficult time changing it, even if he wanted to.
The solution is the following:
1. Recognition that the bully bullies to feel good because he doesn’t feel good about himself.
2. Understanding that one can ‘feel good’ by committing any one of the 7 cardinal sins, one of which is the exercise of anger which translates into bullying.
3. Understanding that one can only ‘feel good about oneself ‘ by practicing one or more of the so-called seven heavenly virtues.
4. Learning the way to make the bully understand the difference, make him feel good about himself and thus turn him from bullying to protecting victims.
It’s not that complicated and it’s all in an eBook I just wrote called Bullying Cure available at bullyingcure.com
In fact all other alleged ‘cures’ do no more than attempt to control the overt observable behavior of the bully. That does no more than scotch the bullying snake. I aspire to cure the bully and make nhim a happier well adjusted contributing member of society, adn in passing make sure he doesn’t wind up in jail

]]> By: Zak Wheeler http://edgeretyblog.com/interviews/comment-page-1/#comment-3790 Zak Wheeler Wed, 28 Sep 2011 21:41:05 +0000 http://edgeretyblog.com/?page_id=265#comment-3790 I just wanted to thank you soo much for your presentation at my school today. It really opened up my eyes and truly inspired me. To bad you didn't start in like middle school lol. Not only did you inspire me but I can speak for my friends as well since the whole rest of the day we talked about your presentation. And almost every single one of us can relate something to your comments. What I really like was that most speaker lecture us which makes everything boring and I believe that is why the message never gets acrossed. But whereas you make it fun, but you still make it serious at the same time and that is really gets you noticed. You are an amazing person and have touched so many people's lives today. At least mine you did. And just by that presentation alone today you have already changed mine and so many others lives. And I like that about you, you are not someone who runs off stage after the presentation you actually interacted with us as well and I really liked that as well. I would love to come and see another presentation and hope that you come back next year because I really enjoyed you and would pay to see your presentation again lol. Thank You again!!! :) (Sophomore at Pinkerton Academy High School in Derry, N.H) I just wanted to thank you soo much for your presentation at my school today. It really opened up my eyes and truly inspired me. To bad you didn’t start in like middle school lol. Not only did you inspire me but I can speak for my friends as well since the whole rest of the day we talked about your presentation. And almost every single one of us can relate something to your comments. What I really like was that most speaker lecture us which makes everything boring and I believe that is why the message never gets acrossed. But whereas you make it fun, but you still make it serious at the same time and that is really gets you noticed. You are an amazing person and have touched so many people’s lives today. At least mine you did. And just by that presentation alone today you have already changed mine and so many others lives. And I like that about you, you are not someone who runs off stage after the presentation you actually interacted with us as well and I really liked that as well. I would love to come and see another presentation and hope that you come back next year because I really enjoyed you and would pay to see your presentation again lol. Thank You again!!! :) (Sophomore at Pinkerton Academy High School in Derry, N.H)

]]> By: Geek Dads Weekly #52 – Cyberbully http://edgeretyblog.com/interviews/comment-page-1/#comment-2000 Geek Dads Weekly #52 – Cyberbully Wed, 08 Dec 2010 03:57:43 +0000 http://edgeretyblog.com/?page_id=265#comment-2000 [...] a topic that hits us both as geeks and as dads. Is cyberbullying fundamentally different than bullying that has gone on in generations past? What do you do when you find out it’s your child [...] [...] a topic that hits us both as geeks and as dads. Is cyberbullying fundamentally different than bullying that has gone on in generations past? What do you do when you find out it’s your child [...]

]]> By: Alexander Long http://edgeretyblog.com/interviews/comment-page-1/#comment-1887 Alexander Long Mon, 06 Sep 2010 20:34:06 +0000 http://edgeretyblog.com/?page_id=265#comment-1887 <i>BeforeI am excited to learn about your program. I totally agree with the severity of the issue for young people…really should begin teaching about being the best you can be even earlier. First time I remember being bullied in school was when I was in 6th grade. I think leadership skills are wonderful…respect, responsibility, accountability…yes, yes, yes…but I think that these issues need to be addressed in an inspirational way that engages teens right where they are so that they have a chance to come to the conclusions and embrace the tools or methods that work for them in terms of living their dreams. What are the challenges and choices one makes in walking their own path…what are the rewards? I mean today one of the most important skills is being able to work well with teams valuing each person’s contribution and working towards consensus…in my mind that is real leadership….Anyway, looking forward to getting the details on your 4 week coaching program.</i> +1 BeforeI am excited to learn about your program. I totally agree with the severity of the issue for young people…really should begin teaching about being the best you can be even earlier. First time I remember being bullied in school was when I was in 6th grade. I think leadership skills are wonderful…respect, responsibility, accountability…yes, yes, yes…but I think that these issues need to be addressed in an inspirational way that engages teens right where they are so that they have a chance to come to the conclusions and embrace the tools or methods that work for them in terms of living their dreams. What are the challenges and choices one makes in walking their own path…what are the rewards? I mean today one of the most important skills is being able to work well with teams valuing each person’s contribution and working towards consensus…in my mind that is real leadership….Anyway, looking forward to getting the details on your 4 week coaching program.
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]]> By: Corinne Gregory http://edgeretyblog.com/interviews/comment-page-1/#comment-1876 Corinne Gregory Tue, 13 Jul 2010 13:32:13 +0000 http://edgeretyblog.com/?page_id=265#comment-1876 Ed, This is a great post, and I thank you for it. There's actually something else missing, although you allude to it in Step 3: the building of pro-social skills (as you list respect, responsibility, accountability) MUST become the intrinsic fabric of the school. You can't teach 'anti-bullying' -- ALL students already know bullying is bad. But what they are lacking are the social skills abilities as well as the character development that builds in them the understanding of WHY we don't treat others this way. And, it has to be taught in the classroom, side-by-side with everything else. That's when it works -- when the kids don't tolerate this kind of behavior among themselves. If you're interested in more of this discussion, feel free to visit http://socialsmarts.wordpress.com/2010/06/09/ending-bullying-the-problem-is/. I'm going to mention your post on our FB page which is at www.facebook.com/socialsmarts if you or your readers are interested. Ed, This is a great post, and I thank you for it. There’s actually something else missing, although you allude to it in Step 3: the building of pro-social skills (as you list respect, responsibility, accountability) MUST become the intrinsic fabric of the school. You can’t teach ‘anti-bullying’ — ALL students already know bullying is bad. But what they are lacking are the social skills abilities as well as the character development that builds in them the understanding of WHY we don’t treat others this way. And, it has to be taught in the classroom, side-by-side with everything else. That’s when it works — when the kids don’t tolerate this kind of behavior among themselves.

If you’re interested in more of this discussion, feel free to visit http://socialsmarts.wordpress.com/2010/06/09/ending-bullying-the-problem-is/. I’m going to mention your post on our FB page which is at http://www.facebook.com/socialsmarts if you or your readers are interested.

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